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How to act when hookup a friend

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Even when you're not in the market for romance you don't necessarily stop being available for sex. As Bipasha Basu pointed out correctly all those years ago, " Yeh jism pyaar karna nahi jaanta.

Jaanta hai toh sirf bhookh, jism ki bhookh. You can be assured of semi-regular sex with a person you enjoy spending time with.

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Sounds like a perfect solution, provided things go as planned. But since it's in the nature of plans to throw curveballs at you, here's how you make sure you cover your bases as much as you can before you add carnal privileges to the friendship mix.

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Understand clearly what you're getting into. Friends with benefits is not the same as no-strings-attached sex, which is typically with a person whose role in your life is limited to sex. Maintaining a sexual relationship with a friend a decidedly trickier than managing your booty-call person.

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Proceed only once you've drilled this in your head. You never know when you might be blindsided and things go completely awry. While good friends might seem like a comforting choice for sex-buddies, they're a lot more stressful to handle if the reality of your arrangement ends up being nothing like the fun-filled expectation. There is a very real possibility that one or both of you might not be able to revert to the pre-sex stage of your friendship.

You might feel differently, or future partners might not be comfortable about having their significant others' sex buddies in close proximity. Do it with a friend you don't mind losing, if it comes to that. Unless you have some semblance of a time-line for your friendly rendezvous, How to act when hookup a friend actually just in a relationship with fewer rules and without the name.

Giving it a deadline will give you a reality check: If you have more than one friends with benefits arrangement, make sure they don't belong to the same social circle. It's unnecessarily complicated to sleep with people who are friends with each other. It could damage your own friendships as well as theirs.

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