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Dating a widower over 60

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Women who date widowers are sometimes stunned when an actively grieving man presses eagerly for sex. Our culture mandates no "correct" grieving process, and grieving is unique to every individual, but most experts agree that men and women mourn in different ways. Women are less likely than men to seek comfort in Dating a widower over 60 while grief endures, says a writer at hellogrief.

Silent brooding, isolation, and even anger are stock elements of male behavior, while women tend to "talk it out" with close friends. Support systems are emblematic of the female experience; men do not cultivate support structures in the same way women do. Does a man's brooding brand of anguish turn too soon to a quest for companionship and ultimately sex? Sociologist Katherine van Wormer suggests that a widower may find that sex can be an effective panacea.

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Because it is an intense experience, sex is one of few activities with inherent power to offset the terrible pain of loss. Denial of loss is a common thread in the grieving process, says van Wormer, recalling the Freudian-based idea that sex can be "a screen for terror.

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