Before, you had people on there who honestly really wanted a relationship and were trying a dating service as a last resort. It was great because we both knew what the other wanted and was looking for. Everyone is on the sites. So far, my luck has been so-so. I had one guy I was seeing that looked promising.
Three weeks in, after some great dates, he abruptly pulled the plug. From what I have read, it is a numbers game. The more guys you meet, the more chance you have of meeting the one.
Even though, at this point, it seems that every guy out there is messed up, has commitment issues, just wants a good time, is married and looking for a bit on the side…etc etc. You just got to keep trying and hope.
I say use it as a one of your sources but, not the main source. I understand it can very frustrating and down right disappointing. Yes its incredibly difficult.
I just seem to get a bit of a chat going then nothing. I was asked by a guy to call him and we spoke for a bit and then he said I will call u and arrange the date. He didnt call back. I am on POF and I think because its free it attracts all the timewasters so after Xmas when I have some more time I am going to subscribe to Match and hopefully the guys that pay to date may be more serious about it.
I dont fancy tinder because I think Im too old for that. Pof is a joke and OK Cupid was like the bottom of the barrel quality. I did it for 2. Most of my dates were decent guys, but I felt no spark with them or vice versa. I estimate during that time I met about guys in person.
In most cases, I felt little to no attraction. A couple weeks or month, maybe, where my profiles Feeling discouraged about dating sites still up but I paid no attention to them. Sometimes you do burn out and need a break.
I advise you to meet each guy assuming you both want to meet as soon as possible, like within weeks of sending the first message. Almost 15yrs ago I met my first two guys online. Both happen to live in the state I was moving to. I called it off after 1. The other one was kind, generous and not as good looking as I prefer but he did help move me into our aparmtent and would always take me and my girls out to dinner and show us around the city. I met and married and divorced online about 8yrs ago.
My last online experience was 1. My current BF met last Dec in person at a restaurant.
Of course there is so many more sites now and me being a single parent working FT really have no time to keep up a profile. Meeting these guys take time and money!! But I will try and see more positivity in this as well. Maybe I should date within my age only? Tina, I am forty-one, and unfortunately, it is starting to seem to me that very few men want a commitment. I used to think men in their thirties and forties and beyondsingle Dads, whatever, were all serious and wanted serious relationships because they were family men, more so than single guys in their twenties.
Boy, was I in for a rude awakening! Yep online dating is waaaaayyyyy hard, as Shannon says all age groups only seem to want sex these days. Online dating is hard work, a lot of sorting out, time consuming and most of the time extremely disappointing. Another negative aspect turn into positive is that it gives me lots of comedy material lol …. To successfully online date you have to have an extremely high self-esteem, lots of time and money, a very tough skin, an open mind as well as going with the mentality of Feeling discouraged about dating sites friends and see where that leads.
Low expectations and high standards. That sums things up pretty well. The key is to carefully screen before you go on dates, manage your expectations easier said than done, i agree and treat each date as if it was the last. If a guy calls back, fine. It happened to me a few months ago. For about four, five months I never went longer than two weeks a date or a new invite.
At one point I was seeing three men at once. Some were odd, a few were gross, most were decent, good people. I felt a definite spark not just potential with two or three. When that happened I took some advice here and checked out the game for two months. I got to relax, figure out what I did wrong, how to improve.
That helped my outlook a lot.
Bad dates make good stories. I also came out more convinced of what I deserve, and my ability to be faithful to what I deserve. I would rather make myself as happy I can be alone than be in a relationship where I have to adjust to be sort of happy. Is it a relationship? Maybe just what you want out of it? Three of them I dated for over a month. Other than two guys, I was happy all of them came into my life.
I get fewer messages, but the men who message me now are quality across the board. All of that said, online dating has really dulled my excitement for men. Many want to be single by choice — reason like successful career.
I fully understand why men want a successful career. It is indeed very rewarding when they are at their prime.