In our society, the beauty and greatness of married love has been so obscured that most people now view marriage as a prison: At the time he could not have foreseen the incredible popularity that his idea would have today. In our society the beauty and greatness or married love has been so obscured that most people now view marriage as a prison: My husband, Dietrich von Hildebrand was just the opposite.
Long before he converted to Roman Catholicism, he was convinced that the community of love in marriage is one of the deepest sources of happiness. Why is marriage important to catholics
He saw the grandeur and the beauty of the union of spouses in marriage — symbolized by their physical union which leads in such a mysterious way to the creation of a new human person. He recognized that love by its very essence longs for infinity and for eternity. Therefore, a person truly in love wants to bind himself forever to his beloved — which is precisely the gift that marriage gives him.
In contrast, love without an unqualified commitment betrays the very essence of love.
He who refuses to commit himself or who break a commitment in order to start another relationship fools himself. He confuses the excitement of novelty with authentic happiness. Such affective defeatism — so typical of our age — is a symptom or severe emotional immaturity which weakens the very foundation of society. It is rooted partly in a misunderstanding of freedom.
Many people criticize marriage because they fail to realize that a person also exercises his freedom when he freely binds himself to another in marriage. These critics of marriage do not see that continuity — and especially faithfulness — is an essential characteristic of a truly great personality: Indeed, contrary to Lord Byron and to popular belief, marriage is the friend and protector of love between man and woman.
Marriage gives love the structure, the shelteredness, the climate in which alone it can grow. Marriage teaches spouses humility, making them realize that the human person is a very poor lover. Much as we long to love and to be loved, we repeatedly fall short and desperately need help.