On Monday, the last day of AprilIssa Rae was trending on Twitter because of what she wrote about black women and Asian men in her book three years ago. As far as I know, the following happened. She came to a tongue-in-cheek conclusion that black women and Asian men should therefore get together. Thanks to the intermingling of technology and dating, there is irrefutable evidence that in modern American society, races and genders do not mix in harmoniously colorblind fashion.
Why not three years ago?
Once, I met a black woman in Seoul and we went on a couple of dates. I remember going to a old-fashioned sujebi Korean hand-torn noodle soup restaurant together and wondering how all the ajummas running the place would treat us. The question is why did this passage suddenly spark a fiery debate now?
The book itself is, in digital years, quite old as it was published in You have to understand the context in which this passage exploded.
I saw memes about how black men were taking L after L these days. And of course, there was pushback from black men as well, saying that black women were trying to control them or that black women were being bitter because they themselves wanted approval from white men.
So I think this Issa Rae passage provided some "Asian women and black men hookup site" for black men to defend themselves. Thus, internal fights within minority communities that were suppressed for the sake of appearances are now surfacing. So watching the same fight in the black community is fascinating, because in terms of relative social positioning, black women are more like Asian men. I have to say I empathize a lot with black women. I know just how infuriating it can be to have the opposite gender of your community sell you out for white acceptance.
That anger never goes away, no matter how much personal romantic success you have.
Because racism is racism. Just look at how many black women wanted to throw Stephon Clark into a figurative ditch of a grave because of what he said about black women. Liberal think tanks like the Brookings Institute clickbait by insinuating that black women would be better off not marrying black men. It makes me reaffirm my Ali Wong standom because she talks so much about her Asian husband.
But there are some questions to be raised. And what does that imply about normal black women? And are black men justified in not wanting to be seen as that sinking ship? We need more open, if still clumsy, discussions about what happens when we try to build an open society on a rotting foundation of many prejudices.
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